Self esteem defined: what is it?
Self – esteem is linked to our perception of ourselves from an internal standpoint. Do we like ourselves? Or is the opposite true?
Children who like themselves are confident in their ability to achieve their goals, will step up and try something new, and know that they will be able to achieve the task in front of them – even if it appears difficult.
A child with good self-esteem is confident when trying out a new activity, trusts their own opinions, associates with children who are good for them, and is overall, very self-assured. This child believes in themselves.
Children with good self-esteem don’t need to ask for their parent’s approval in regard to every single decision they make. They trust themselves, and they know that they make a valuable contribution to the lives of their friends and family.
A child with a strong sense of self will forever have a secure foundation for their learning development.
Self-esteem: the basics
Self esteem is about liking yourself and who you are. Self-esteem is not about behaving in an overconfident manner. Instead, it is about believing in yourself and knowing who you are.
For children, self-esteem comes from knowing that they are loved, and that they belong to a loving family that values them. It also comes from being praised and encouraged in regard to the things that are important to them. Children with good self-esteem feel confident about the future.
Nurturing your child’s self esteem
Self is linked to a sense of security:
A sense of purpose
Encourage your child to make positive contributions
Children like to help with their parent’s projects. They like to know that their contribution to your creative projects, latest gardening project, or household chores means something to you – and that you value their input.
Your child will feel positive about decision making, and empowered to make, or influence decisions important to them, if they are trusted by their parent’s to do so. It is important that children feel that their independence, and self-esteem is promoted by their parents.
Purpose and routine
Teach your child that mistakes, failures, and setbacks are part and parcel of life.
A sense of competence and pride
Acknowledge your child’s competency, their problem solving skills, their ability to work internally on their sense of self, and all other positive attributes your child has.
Keep watch on their self-esteem
Keep an eye on your child. Watch for signs of bullying, developmental issues, learning struggles, and social problems. All of these things can affect your child’s self-esteem well into adult – hood if not dealt with in the early years.
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